Effective listening includes

Effective listening includes confirming one's understanding of a message, checking that its meaning was received correctly.

This feedback loop lets both sides agree on what was actually meant.

Filtering out points of disagreement discards information rather than understanding it fully.

Detailed analysis of every word gets lost in fragments and misses the whole message.

Attaching one's own subjective meaning distorts the message with the listener's bias.

Confirmation through paraphrase or questions closes the gap between the sent and the received meaning.